Sex Therapy For Women

The subconscious mind is the seat of the emotions. It responds to programming, by authority figures (your mother or father) and especially if there is emotion involved you can program it yourself, inadvertently. This frequently happens with a woman's first sex experience. The purpose of this sex therapy information page is to help disconnect you from early guilt you accepted from others or laid on yourself. A normal woman will have intense orgasms, more than one unless her partner is too quick or clumsy, but several by finger manipulation of the clitoris and/or oral sex. If you feel that somehow you aren't functioning as you should, this automated sex therapy may be helpful.

If you do not respond well to self physical stimulation and you are not beyond the menopause, chances are that guilt lies somewhere in your subconscious. If you are beyond menopause there can be the added problem of possible hormonal need. Some women think it's all over when they pass 50. Not so. My oldest partner is 71 and she functions well when the hormones are right. See your doctor about this.

The best written info on the use of nutritional and other products to enhance sexual enjoyment that I know of is found at Smart Publications.

The sex therapy message below that I've recorded is to help disconnect old guilt, as I assume you would rather be in control of your own emotions with the understanding you have today. This as opposed to the understanding you had at the time of your first sexual experiences.

The subconscious is a NON-reasoning mind, at least as we normally look at reasoning ability. It responds to commands that you let get through to it, usually. I say usually because the internal opposition can sometimes be very strong and it takes repeated attempts to get the programming changed.

My role is to offer suggestion (a command) to your subconscious to disconnect you from guilt. Another person could do it as well if he did it properly, using a clap of the hands or snap of the fingers instead of the click on the mike or sound of a buzzer which I will use.

YOU MUST HAVE A SOUND CARD IN YOUR COMPUTER TO USE THIS AUDIO MESSAGE! You do not have to download a player for the first one, and being on dial-up is no problem. The second one you should have a fast connection as it will take time to load.

Don't expect this message of DISCONNECT! to make sense to your rational (conscious) mind. Just try it, and be relaxed as evidenced by your free salivation before you listen. Don't start the message until you can create a lot of saliva in your mouth. Close your eyes if you wish, if it helps you go back to the suspected guilt. If you can FEEL the unpleasant emotion, you've made contact with an important source of your problem and that helps. You will NOT go into a trance and if you are a meditator do NOT go into meditation mode. Just be normal, relaxed, and listen. I apologize for the sound quality. It may sound better with earphones.

Make sure this page has been open for a minute or so. First access takes longest. After that it plays from your temp file and comes right up.

My only pay is knowing I've helped some of you. If things go better, let me know, please. I have a page on sex techniques for men your partner should read.

If you had a childhood upsetting sex experience, go back in your memory and bring up the emotions accompanying it and immediately play the message below. After the message is finished, you should no longer have those upsetting feelings and hopefully you will function better.

Hands on Therapy

Example 1: A lady from my class told me she had a sex problem and wanted it fixed. She was probably 15 years younger than I. So I went to bed with her twice and got orgasms but they weren't very big. I had tried to find the reason using hypnoanalysis.

On a trip to the beach with 2 other women including my girlfriend I did therapy on her in the back seat, whispering in her ear. She started to cry. I disconnected the cause. She had gone back to her first sex experience when she went camping with a boy who later became her husband. They had sex, and she felt so guilty she cried all night. I figured I had found the root of the problem.

On arriving at a motel at the beach I told the other women to stay out of the bedroom. I took her to bed and with suggestion I must have taken her thru at least 20 strong orgasms. In fact I could later give her orgasms without touching her sexually. She had no interest in me at all, but she got fixed, good. I heard later that she went back to her husband and I've had no more contact.

Example 2: A woman of about 50 was referred to me by a girlfriend for sex therapy. She was separated from her husband, had a younger boyfriend, but was having trouble getting to orgasm. I did therapy on her and on her second visit she reported that she had had fairly satisfactory sex with her boyfriend. I did more therapy and went to bed with her. She performed as a woman should, essentially unlimited number of orgasms. I don't remember how many but they were intense and she came easily. I saw her again, socially, but never went to bed with her again. I later heard from my girlfriend that she had gone back to her husband and no longer functioned sexually.

Example 3: A woman with MS was fond of me, though much younger. We ended up in bed and with a lot of work over a couple of hours I got a small orgasm or two, and I am pretty skilled. She had a stiff leg, as a result of the MS, and I was working on that on the living room floor when she got into some past experience and started crying, sobbing (an abreaction) and it lasted about ten minutes. I let her cry it out. The bottom line was her high school daughter had come home from the prom with blood on her dress some years ago and she sobbed to me "I didn't want my daughter to be a sinful woman like I was." I thought no more about it and the leg still wasn't bending, though when I slept with her and awakened during the night she was on her back with knees in the air.

The next time I had sex with her she came easily and with good orgasms, 7 in an hour as I recall. In fact I gave her the suggestion that when she went in the bathroom to pee she would have an orgasm instead. I had to take it out after a while because she couldn't pee for the orgasms. I've done this to several woman friends as practical jokes.

She was from out of town and I never saw her again but she still has the MS, caused I think by the fact she left her husband for another man and later came back to her husband who accepted her, watched her like a hawk, but wouldn't have sex with her for fear he would "catch" MS. She became so crippled she couldn't get away to have another partner, which she had done on occasion. This is the sort of damage your own subconscious can do to you. It's tragic. You see this in panic attacks as well.

Nutritional therapy is available at your health food store for both men and women. See http://www.smart-publications.com which is very helpful. There are creams for women adveertised on the internet containing arginine which are reputed to increase responsiveness in women, rubbed in the appropriate areas of course. Give it a few minutes to penetrate. They probably work, tho I haven't used them.

Lacking the cream, use a lubricant like KY liquid Personal Lubricant, at all pharmacies. Makes a world of difference.

Special Problem for Women

Many women have problems climaxing with the man inside. Fixing that is a little tricky. Once she climaxes easily with your fingers, repeatedly, but doesn't with you inside, try the following: With your finger, manipulate the clitoris lightly WHILE YOUR PENIS IS INSIDE. This takes some acrobatics. You must build an association between climaxing and you being inside. It may take several attempts, like everything else.

There is another way, but most men won't have the guts to try it. With the woman sitting on top, you do what you can, perhaps with her help, to get close to climax. You feed her suggestions, playfully that she's going to come. Then you increase your thrusting and get into some pretty violent strokes so she has trouble staying on top and you give her rapid fire suggestions she's going to come. Jostle her, playfully. The reason this works is you've tied up her conscious mind with keeping her balance and your suggestion goes right into the subconscious which ACTS on it because the conscious mind isn't there to say "I can't come." It's too busy trying to keep her from falling off! Use your hands on her body as well to further tie her mind up. ALWAYS be playful, never violent.

Example of the foregoing: A secretary working for me said she couldn't come with a man inside. I took her on a beach trip, did therapy with her, got in bed, did more therapy and figured it was her own belief that she couldn't that was in the way. So I did the rapid fire stuff as above and she came. She more or less denied it had happened but I knew she had. So I did more and it was only after 7 good orgasms that she admitted she was coming OK. I never went to bed with her again but she married and I questioned her some years later and she said it was still working.

While the following were "hands on" therapy I have done it without touching and had the woman come right in the chair. They had no interest in me at all. This is fairly common technique with hypnotists.